You know that feeling when you spend time with someone and walk away feeling completely drained? Or the opposite — you meet a friend and suddenly feel lighter and happier, even if you didn’t do anything special?
I hear about this almost every week. People come to me saying, “Dokita, I love my family, but after spending time with them I feel exhausted.” Or “Why do I feel so good after talking to certain friends, but heavy after others?”
These experiences aren’t just in your head. As Dokita Mukisa, with over 15 years working with African spiritual traditions, I can tell you that energy really does move between people — all the time, often without us realising it.
Let me explain it in a simple, down-to-earth way.
How Energy Transfer Actually Happens
Every person carries their own spiritual energy — a kind of emotional and energetic “vibe.” When we interact with others, that energy doesn’t stay neatly in its own lane. It flows.
Think of it like this:
- Some people naturally give off warm, uplifting energy. Spending time with them feels like standing in gentle sunlight.
- Others carry heavier energy — stress, anger, sadness, or constant worry. Being around them can feel like walking into a cold room.
This exchange happens through conversation, eye contact, even sitting in the same space. You don’t have to touch someone for their energy to affect you. Empaths and highly sensitive people tend to notice it more strongly, but it happens to all of us.
Common Ways Energy Transfers in Daily Life
Here are the situations I see most often:
- Long conversations with negative people – You listen to someone complain or vent for an hour, and suddenly you feel heavy and tired.
- Being around constant drama – Family members or friends who thrive on chaos can leave you feeling emotionally drained.
- One-sided relationships – When you’re always giving support but rarely receiving it, your energy gets depleted.
- Crowded or stressful environments – Shopping centres, busy offices, or loud gatherings can leave you feeling overwhelmed and scattered.
On the positive side, spending time with grounded, kind, and peaceful people can leave you feeling refreshed and inspired.
How to Protect Your Energy Without Closing Your Heart
The goal isn’t to cut everyone off. It’s to stay open-hearted while protecting your own peace. Here are a few simple things I teach my clients:
- Before meeting someone, take a quiet moment and imagine a soft shield of golden light around you.
- After spending time with draining people, wash your hands with salt water or take a quick shower while imagining the heavy energy washing away.
- Create small daily grounding habits — walking barefoot on grass, holding a stone, or doing a short breathing exercise.
These small acts make a surprisingly big difference.
A Gentle Daily Practice: The Energy Shield Breath
Here’s a quick practice you can do anytime:
- Place one hand on your heart.
- Take a slow breath in and say silently, “I receive only what is good for me.”
- Breathe out and say, “I release what is not mine.”
Do this a few times before and after challenging interactions. Many of my clients say it helps them stay centred even in difficult situations.
Final Thoughts
Spiritual energy really does move between people every single day — sometimes lifting us up, sometimes weighing us down. The good news is that once you become aware of it, you can start protecting your energy with love instead of fear.
You don’t have to close your heart to stay protected. You just need to become more conscious of what (and who) you allow into your energetic space.
As Dokita Mukisa, I’m always here to help you understand and strengthen your own energy. If you often feel drained after being around certain people or situations, feel free to reach out. We can talk about what’s happening and find gentle, practical ways to help you stay balanced and peaceful.
Contact Me
- Phone: +27774892957
- Email: dokitamukisa@gmail.com
- Website: sacredtraditionalhealingspells.co.za
You deserve to feel light and protected in your daily life. I’m right here whenever you’re ready.
